Harmony in life creates this beautiful flow from one moment to the next. From one goal achieved to the next one being implemented. From a neglected relationship in the chaos of life to a nurtured cherished connection. Achieving harmony is a concept that can be challenging at first. Check out these 5 tips to create harmony in your life.
1. Know what parts of your life are fixed and can not flex.
These are the things in life that can not be moved. Such as: scheduled events, work requirements, or kids activities. All of these need to be a part of the flow of your life and should be the first that you schedule in.
Also, consider the things that may be able to be moved, but that you are unwilling to move. These are things that are central to who you are. These are things that build you up or are the glass balls in your life (click here for understanding glass balls). Some examples would be: church, scripture/devotional time, ministering, date night, one on one time with your children, self-care, etc.
2. Establish necessary boundaries and use them.
Even though the idea behind harmony is a “pleasing arrangement” usually done through a flow you create, boundaries are a must. In order for all things to come together each piece needs your undivided attention. This is where boundaries come in.
For example, if you are enjoying a date night do not spend time answering texts or emails that can wait. Or if you know that starting your day with a routine sets you up for a successful day hold the boundary for that time. It is important that you understand where your boundaries lay and that you use them when you need to.
Each time we cave on our boundaries it makes it harder for us to use them the next time. Until over time they are eroded and would need to be completely re-established.
3. Stop the comparison game to create harmony in your life.
This one can be so tricky! But, I am here to tell you that it is so worth it! You are a unique and special individual. You are not your neighbor. Your sister. Your best friend. Or the woman on tv. Her life is not your life. Nor is it meant to be.
Your beliefs are not hers. Your values are not hers. Your limiting beliefs, core beliefs, circumstances, emotions, thoughts, are all very different from any other person. As it should be! Embrace what makes you you and stop comparing yourself. This will allow you to have clarity on what you want in your life. What will fill in around the fixed things in your schedule. This is where you can use your faith to decide what stays and what to let go of.
4. Let go of what is not in harmony while still allowing flexibility when needed.
Okay, I know we just said enforce those boundaries. This may seem counter to that information, but it’s not. Boundaries are important and healthy. Yet, what if one of your boundaries is no longer needed? Or it impedes your progress because you set it in fear and not for healthy reasons? In these situations allow yourself to have flexibility and let go of those boundaries that do not serve you anymore.
On top of this, look at what you have in your life that is no longer serving the goals you want to achieve. Pray about what stays and what you no longer need. Create the harmony you want in your life by using your faith and core beliefs. Co-create with God. Embrace divine help when using these tips. If this is a shift for you to make, be kind to yourself. You are bound to need a few tries before you find what works best for you.
5. Be present in every moment. Life is meant to be lived.
I am sure you have heard that saying, “You only have this one life to live.” Embrace the concept of this statement. Be present in every moment. Rest in the peace that harmony gives you. Allow that calm to be present throughout the circumstances your days go through. Be aware and mindful of your intentions. Live. LIVE.
This life is yours. Enjoy it. You, my dear friend, are deserving of a harmonious existence.